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worth it

this side of grief is hard. The middle of it, that is. The ebb and flow...more ebb than flow these days, it seems. i assumed the hardest part of processing a new life would be the tangible pieces. the daily parts. but it's not. it's the confusion about why no version of me was worth it.

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